I drank down my pain, but the damned pain learned how to swim.
Depression has become a major issue nowadays, whether in the young or older generation. It has become a serious medical illness that makes you feel negative at all times. It makes you lose hope, interest in the things you once loved, or it makes you grouchy.
People around you may think depression is a bunch of hocus pocus. They usually consider you to be seeking attention or throwing a tantrum. However, this is not the case. People that don’t understand your condition usually wave it off or say ‘this phase will pass’ without even trying to understand it.
Depression doesn’t necessarily mean that you had a crappy childhood or have a lousy marriage. You can have a great life but still be hit with depression because of a few hurdles in your life. To be honest, to some depression looks cool by watching shows and they think they can add it to their personalities as a way of being quirky. But in all seriousness, depression is a bitch. It haunts you and it takes a long while to disappear.
DEALING WITH DEPRESSION
Yes, seriously just cry. There will be times when you just want to drop on the floor and cry. It’s okay to sometimes cry and let it go. You’re not meant to keep it inside you and be strong all the time. There is a reason we were given emotions by God. It’s okay to feel weak or upset. Cry it out, ruin your make-up, be as miserable as you want to be, because soon you will be healed.
- ACCEPT YOUR DEPRESSION
Honestly this should be your first priority, but I know people don’t usually do this. Accept your depression everyone. If you’re depressed, accept it rather than blocking it. By blocking it, you will feel more troubled and it will seem the world is troubling you even more. Accepting it will allow you to see the negative beliefs around you or change in the behaviours of those around you. It allows you to know what’s hurting you so that you can stay away from it so that it doesn’t hurt you further.
- TALK TO SOMEONE
Try talking to someone about it. I know this may seem difficult as you’ll feel nobody is truely on your side. But trying to talk to someone will help you ease your pain. Sometimes talking about our pain out loud is the best way to overcome that specific pain. It will help you ease your mind. Also, some people may be going through the same thing as you, so speaking about it with others may help you see things in a newer perspective. You can hear their thoughts, while you tell your own thoughts about the same situation.
- DON’T BEAT YOURSELF UP
During depression, we tend to believe everything we do or say is simply screwed up. We usually blame ourselves for even being in depression as if we purposely put ourself in that phase. This is not the case. Stop beating yourself up for something you haven’t done. You didn’t choose to be depressed just for kicks. Certain circumstances put you in that place. It’s not your fault, so don’t feel down on things that are difficult for you to do at that moment of need. Take a breath and calm yourself. You’re doing the best you can and that’s enough. No need to make yourself further depressed by beating yourself up over small things.
Being in depression, everyone takes their happiness away and stops smiling. Stop doing this. I know smiling in this condition feels rather stupid and difficult but don’t stop smiling. Being in depression, we only remember one emotion.
All we do is be sad and forget to smile. Always remember, smiling even on your most despairing days brings out a small joy in you. Even an ounce of joy during depression is a good thing. It means you’re starting to heal. Don’t let your smile wave off. It will take away in the slightest chance of recovery for you.
Don’t give up on yourself. I know things can be quite difficult during your time of depression but NEVER GIVE UP. The moment you decide to give up, that will be the end of your life. You will become negative towards everything and everyone. This will lead to a further downfall and you will feel everything collapse. So don’t give up. Don’t let your frustration become your downfall. Get over your fears. Don’t let things get to your head. It doesn’t matter how long it takes you to recover, you will eventually recover. No matter how hard the struggle, the smell of victory will be greater.
Remember, even on the worst days, there’s always a possibility for joy. ❤